Let it go!

Because it's not easy.
Because it gets easier, but then sometimes gets harder without warning.
Because that can leave us questioning and doubting ourselves.
Because sometimes we need a reminder.

A few days ago I wrote about surrounding yourself with people who are good and healthy for you, and distancing yourself from the bad. But what about when people who at the time are good for you leave you?

I tended to have this horrible habit of always seeing it as my loss. When a friend decided our friendship for whatever reason was not worth continuing, when a relationship ended, or any other situation where people just up and left, abandoning any future with me I always saw it as a single-sided loss. I saw it as my loss. Then one day I was on the phone with my Mom and she instilled in me a new perspective. "Col, why do you only see it as your loss? You're a great person, it's their loss, too."

Hmm. Food for thought. Everyone has been "left" before. It's not fun, but it's part of life. Can any loss between two people truly be single-sided?

Know your worth.

Here is a speech I come to from time to time when I need to take a cue from the preacher T.D. Jakes.

"There are people who can walk away from you.

And hear me when I tell you this: when people can walk away from you, let them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.

Let them go.

And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead.
You've got to know when it's dead.

You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to......

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains...

LET IT GO!!!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and
see your worth.....

LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you.

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge......

LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction......

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents

LET IT GO!!!

If you have a bad attitude.....

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better......

LET IT GO!!!

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him........

LET IT GO!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship.......

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves......

LET IT GO!!!

If you're feeling depressed and stressed.....

LET IT GO!!!

Get Right or Get Left ... think about it, and then.

LET IT GO!!!"